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Friday, October 23, 2009
What to do about The Flu?
What to do, what to do?
Like many parents, I'm struggling with the flu vaccine question. Do I get Sonwun and Sontoo the shots or just let them deal with the possibility of the flu, and, possibly the H1N1 variety?
There is so much conflicting information out there right now. What's a dad to do?
Some of the medical experts say that if you get the regular seasonal flu shot, you increase your risk of getting H1N1. Some say the H1N1 vaccine is new and unproven and wonder whether it's worth risking potential side effects, immediately and down the road.
The Canadian government, it seems, is encouraging folks to get vaccinated, specifically those in high-risk areas (like Thompson, Manitoba), children ages six months through five years (like Sonwun and Sontoo) and those with chronic medical issues, such as Type 2 diabetes (like myself).
That being said, I read things in news stories, such as:
" . . . research and data so far show that the H1N1 vaccine's side-effect profile has been good and that it has undergone rigorous testing to ensure it is safe."
I need to know what "good" means in that context. I only know it does not mean "excellent" or "perfect" or even "very good." So what exactly qualifies as "good?"
A press release from the Manitoba government offered the following:
"Health Canada has assessed available data on the safety, quality and effectiveness of the H1N1 vaccine and concluded the benefit-to-risk profile is favourable for active immunization against the H1N1 in an officially declared pandemic situation."
And again, the wording scares me. "The benefit-to-risk profile is favourable . . . in an officially declared pandemic situation."
Wording has always interested me. And the wording here is certainly interesting. Favourable is a weak and scary word. And the qualifier, "in an officially declared pandemic situation," is also making me nervous
Does this mean that if we were in an unofficially, possible pandemic situation the benefit-to-risk profile would remain favourable, or would it be unfavourable? Or would there be a weaker word attached, such as "reasonable" or "within acceptable limits?"
I don't think I ever had a flu vaccination as a child. If I got sick, I went to bed, puked, suffered through the fever and aches and BUILT MY IMMUNE SYSTEM the natural way. Isn't that important too?
Now that being said, I certainly do not want to risk serious, deadly illness for my children. And even that's up for debate. I've read articles and reports about children getting this flu, suffering as I did as a child (a couple of days of discomfort) and coming out the other side just dandy, and, with a naturally upgraded immune system.
Just for giggles, I did an informal poll on the Dadstayshome.com website to see what my fellow SAHDs planned to do. That started a spirited debate on the risk vs. benefit angle. But, in the end, the poll came back showing that, of the 29 voters, four are getting the seasonal flu shot only, no one is opting for H1N1 only, 17 will get both and eight are avoiding flu shots entirely.
And during the spirited debate, many of my questions were reiterated but not definitively answered. Just more questions.
I also emailed my family members in the health care profession for opinions. But I haven't heard back from them yet.
So, I'm left with the following:
1. H1N1 has killed people this year. (Generally the very young, very old and those with compromised immune systems).
2. The common flu has killed people every year. (Generally the very young, very old and those with compromised immune systems).
3. There have been adverse reactions to swine flu vaccines. And while the numbers are small, the reaction has been big. Specifically, following the 1976 mass immunizations for swine flu, there was an increase in Guillain-Barré syndrome (GBS) among those vaccinated. It is a rare, paralyzing, lethal neurological disease and no one has yet figured out the connection between the vaccine and GBS. And, based on what I've read so far, the chances of getting it from the vaccine appear to be about 1 in 100,000.
4. The H1N1 vaccine is still relatively new. While short-term side-effects may partially be known, the long-term effects remain a mystery.
5. I have had and survived the common flu many times, as a child and as an adult.
6. I have never had H1N1 flu, and neither have my children.
7. This all means I'm really no further ahead in my decision. Is the risk of the H1N1 vaccine greater or lesser than the risk of the flu itself?
I wish, dear readers, that I had some kind of definitive answer here. Not for you, of course, but for myself. Vaccination clinics are expected to get under way here in Thompson next week. That give me three days or so to make up my mind.
Right now, I'm sitting squarely on the fence and it's just not a comfortable position.
I feel that if I could get just one question answered HONESTLY, I could make my decision.
I've heard from the politicians, I've read as many news reports as I could find, I've heard from my buddies, I've heard from the lady in the tinfoil hat on the corner of Westwood and Arctic Streets and I've heard from doctors who don't actually study the vaccine, but rely on information from the drug manufacturers, in this case, for Canada, GlaxoSmithKline.
But the question I need answered is this: Are all of the scientists, the lab rats, the ones who designed, tested and are profiting from this vaccine, (the good folks at GlaxoSmithKline, who have ALL available data in front of them) are they giving this vaccine, without reservation, to their children under 5?
An absolutely honest answer to that question will go a long way in helping me make my decision. And I just don't think I'll get it.
Sunday, October 4, 2009
Why?
So, six days until mommy comes home. The light at the end of the tunnel is growing brighter.
I have done my best to keep up with the vacuuming, laundry and general cleaning. But with two kids, a cat and a dog, I will have to put in a little extra effort this week to create the illusion of cleanliness upon her arrival.
It has also been a goal/tradition to attempt to complete at least one project in her absence and this time it's the shower.
Ever since we moved in, mommy's been unhappy with the plastic folding doors on the shower. She'd prefer a shower curtain. Fair enough. The doors make it difficult to bathe the boys as they don't fold out of the way. Fully folded, they take up about a quarter of the space on each side of the tub, leaving only half the space to access the children.
So, with Sonwun in tow, and Sontoo playing happily on his own, I attacked the problem. Sonwun was eager to help and eager to learn. In fact, for the past month or so, he has been "eager to learn" about everything under the freakin' sun. It's a phase, they tell me; the "why?" phase.
For each and every one of my actions, from dawn to dusk, there is a question. What are you doing daddy? What is that daddy? Which came first, the chicken or the egg? What colour is the mirror? What is the sound of one hand clapping? Daddy, if a tree falls in the forest and no one is around to hear it . . .
You get the idea.
And as if this preschool-inspired PHD test was not enough, each answer I provide is now followed up with a "why?" So it's not just a multiple choice test, the professor wants essay answers. I hated those exams.
In any case, back to the bathroom.
"What are you doing daddy?"
"I'm taking off the shower doors."
"Why are you taking the shower doors off?"
"Because your mommy doesn't like them."
"Why doesn't mommy like them."
"Because they make it hard to bath you guys."
"Why does it make it hard?"
"Because they're in the way and you guys might bump your heads on them."
"Why would we bump our heads?"
"Because the doors are in the way."
"Why are the doors in the way?"
And on and on it goes. It's not long before I begin to notice the signs that he isn't really paying attention to the questions, or the answers. He's just inserting the word "why" in the second half of my answers and repeating. At the same time, he's trying to tie all of the bathroom drawers together with hair ties.
And so, in an effort to end the questions, save some hair ties and make Sonwun feel part of the process, I hand him a spare screwdriver and invite him to help.
"What's this daddy?
"It's a screwdriver."
"What's it for?"
"It's for putting in screws and taking screws out."
"What are screws?"
"They are these things here (employing a visual aid) and we need to take them out so that the shower doors will come off."
"Can I help?"
"Yes, why don't you start on the ones on that side and I'll work on these over here."
This buys me about 30 seconds of work before the questions start again.
And so, while I work, I answer every possible question about tools, showers, shower curtains, shower curtain rods, screwdrivers, screws, screwing, unscrewing and bath mats.
At which point, Sonwun loses interest in "helping" and decides he'd rather wander about the bathroom with "his" screwdriver singing, and I quote, "I love to screw, I love to screw, I love to screw."
I did my best to avoid laughing. And it wasn't too difficult, because all I had to do was imagine where this will come back to haunt me; checkout line at the grocery store, playgroup, during a visit from friends, during a visit to the wife's detachment surrounded by police officers.
But I digress.
I don't ever want my boys to stop asking "why?" It's the only way to learn, the only way to challenge what you've learned and to challenge those that are teaching you, daddy included. It's the only way to gather information that will help them make decisions, big and small, for the rest of their lives.
When evolution is presented as fact, I want them to ask why. When they're offered drugs, I want them to ask why. When they are tempted to shoplift, I want them to ask why? When they're invited to church, I want them to ask why? When a preacher tells them their daddy is going to hell, I want them to ask why? And hopefully, by that time, they will have asked why enough times to have put together a pretty decent database of information that will enable them to make solid decisions.
As for right now, as I said, mommy's home in six days. And that, my friends, will provide my one of my favourite answers to most of Sonwun's questions: "I think your mother knows that one. Why not ask her?"
